Sssh, don't let the cat out of the bag

Everyone has different avenues for venting and ranting. When it comes to the problems a couple face, should they face them together and keep everything private? I guess if both parties are able to compromise and are able to solve the problems between them, then there shouldn't even be the opportunity of leaking potentially privileged information. So marriage is not a union of just 2 people, but also involves the people in their lives. Unfortunately, that means sometimes it will cause unnecessary conflicts. If neither party wants to compromise, should you just stifle your anger or succumb to confiding in close friends & family? And would that cause even more damage & grief to the current state of the relationship? This might sound trivial to some, but today I have learnt that baby names is considered to be privileged information and should only be disclosed to members of the special club (call it the baby names club if u wish). It sounds a bit bizarre but that's what we have decided.